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The Permissive Parenting Style

12/5/2019

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The permissive parent, also known as an indulgent parent, tends to have low expectations with many rewards. Children of permissive parents often have low self-esteem and tend to be very manipulative. Discipline is inconsistent and rules (if there are any) are rarely enforced. Children are often out-of-control and have trouble regulating their emotions. They may avoid talking about feelings or be disconnected from their emotions.   ​

Discipline

Discipline is non-existent or inconsistent at best. Parents give in to their child's demands and use promises for toys or candy to get kids to behave in public. 
  • Little or no discipline. 
  • Discipline is often inconsistent. 
  • Use bribes like toys and candy to get children to behave. 
  • Ignores potentially dangerous behaviors. ​

Communication

Permissive parents may be emotionally distant from their children and avoid them whenever they can. On the other side, they may give their children too much information and involve them in adult issues before they are ready. 
  • Emotionally distant from their children. 
  • Are often too busy with their own problems to help their children. 
  • May involve their children in adult matters.
  • Gives in to their child's demands.

Nurture

Permissive parents very often miss important school or extra-curricular activities. They may avoid their children. 
  • Rarely attend events and after school activities. 
  • Often miss parent- teacher conferences. 
  • May intentionally avoid their children.  
  • May treat their child like a friend instead of a child. ​

Expectations

Permissive parents have little to no rules or expectations. The lines between parent and friend may be blurred. Even if they have rules, they are enforced inconsistently. 
  • Low expectations. 
  • Little to no boundaries or rules. 
  • Does not teach their children to regulate their emotions or control their impulses. ​

Affects on the Child

Self Image

Children of permissive parents usually have low self-esteem, but tend to be egotistical and selfish. They learn to manipulate people to get the things they want. 
  • Low self-esteem. 
  • Uses their confidence to manipulate people and get what they want. ​

Emotions

Children of permissive parents are likely to develop mental health and emotional challenges. They are often disconnected from their emotions and are generally unhappy. They also have difficulty controlling their emotions. They may throw a lot of tantrums. 
  • Has mental health challenges like anxiety and depression. 
  • Generally unhappy. 
  • Hides or avoids their feelings. 
  • May have uncontrolled or irregular feelings. 
  • Anger outbursts are common. ​

Social Skills

Children of permissive parents are often more withdrawn than other parents. They tend to be bossy and have trouble making and keeping friends. They are very often manipulative of adults and their peers. 
  • Withdrawn. 
  • Do not feel they can trust anyone. 
  • Is often disrespectful. 
  • Trouble making and keeping friends. 
  • Trouble empathizing with others. 
  • Lacks self-control. 
  • Is manipulative. 
  • Demanding. 
  • Selfish. 
  • Bossy. 
  • Aggressive. 
  • Demanding of adults and their peers. ​

Academics

Children are likely to have trouble respecting authority and being obedient. They tend to give up on new things quickly if they do not catch on right away. Poor grades are common with children of permissive parents. 
  • Does not respect authority. 
  • Is unlikely to do their best. 
  • Gives up quickly. 
  • Poor grades. 
  • Takes the path of least resistance. 
  • Is unlikely to explore new things.
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The Authoritarian Parenting Style

12/2/2019

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Authoritarian parents have high expectations, but provide very little nurturance or positive feedback. They are less likely to listen to the child's wants and often expect obedience without question. They are more likely to use corporal punishment like spanking. Communication between parent and child is usually only one way. Children of authoritarian parents tend to have a low self-esteem and be unsure of themselves. They sometimes have trouble making decisions. They are less likely to ask their parents for help when they need it for fear of getting in trouble.

Discipline

Authoritarian parents are more likely to focus on things the child is doing wrong and discipline using spanking and other forms or corporal punishment. They may yell and attempt to get their children to do what they want by evoking fear.

- Yells more.
- Spanks or uses other forms of physical punishment. 
- Makes their kids obey by evoking fear.
- Believes children must obey without question.

Communication

For the authoritarian parent, communication is one way. The parent expects the child to obey without explanation. As a result, children may have trouble making decisions on their own as adults.
  • Believes the parent is always right.
  • Makes all the decisions.
  • Does not allow their child to express ideas or opinions.

Nurture

Authoritarian parents focus on exerting their will onto the child. They are unlikely to listen to the child with a differing opinion. Negotiation is not an option. Children receive a lot more negative feedback than positive.
  • Provides little to no affection. 
  • Lacks empathy for their child's perspective.
  • Provides little to no encouragement or praise.

Expectations

Expectations are very high for the authoritarian parent. Sometimes they expect too much of their child which can affect their self-esteem. The child's developmental abilities are not often taken into account.
  • Sets rigid rules and guidelines.
  • Is very demanding.
  • Chores are often excessive and not age- appropriate.
  • Is controlling.
  • Is inflexible. ​

Affects on the Child

Self Image

Children who receive more negative feedback than positive usually have a low self-esteem. They may feel they are bad or dumb and may not be able to recognize great achievements.
  • Low Self- Esteem

Emotions

Children of authoritarian parents are often disconnected from their own thoughts and emotions. They may have trouble expressing their feelings or even knowing how they feel. They are more likely to struggle with anxiety and depression.

- Do not feel they can trust their feelings.
- Has suppressed emotions.
- Often feels depressed.
- Is angry and resentful.

Social Skills

The authoritarian parent focuses on achievement and obedience instead of self-control and managing their own behaviors. Children of authoritarian parents may have trouble getting along with others and often feels alone. They may have trouble making and keeping friends, and may get into friendships and relationships that are unhealthy.
  • Has trouble getting along with others.
  • Has poor social skill
  • Is often feels lonely. 
  • Is often aggressive toward friends and family.

Academics

Since authoritarian parents push expectations that may be too harsh onto their child, they are less likely to respect authority. They may have trouble concentrating in school and at work.
  • Has trouble concentrating.
  • Minimal achievement. 
  • Does not respect authority.
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The Authoritative Parenting Style

11/14/2019

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The authoritative parent has high expectations and consistently disciplines and enforces their expectations. They believe communication is a two-way street and is willing to listen to and reason with their children. They do not demand respect, but rather believe respect is earned. Child development experts agree that children raised with an authoritative parent are more socially aware, emotionally stable and successful in their lives. Authoritative parents say "Do as I say, and here is the reason." They are more willing to listen to their child's opinions, but do not allow their children to do whatever they want. They focus on teaching their children independence and how to strive for excellence, and are attuned to their child's thoughts, feelings and opinions.

Discipline

The authoritative parent thinks of discipline as teaching. They prefer to explain to their child the reasons they should or should not do something. Unlike their authoritarian counterpart, the authoritative parent does not say, "Do as I say or else." 
  • Encourages independence by letting child make decisions and do things independently.
  • Does not expect blind obedience.
  • Consistently enforces limits and expectations.
  • Uses positive parenting methods.

Communication

This type of parent believes their children have a right to their opinion if they are polite and respectful. They try to make their child feel heard and understood by listening for understanding. They leave room for negotiations, but are the final say.
  • Listens to their children.
  • Reasons with their child. Communications is two ways.
  • Believes they should earn their child's respect, and does not demand respect.

Nurture

The parent strives to make the child feel loved and tries to be aware of their needs and desires. They try to stay open with their child.
  • Is loving and warm.
  • Is tuned into their child's needs, feelings and wants.

Expectations

The authoritative parent sets the bars for school, sports and activities high. They expect their child to do their best in everything they do. They don't expect perfect grades, but they do expect them to be proactive in learning the material. They expect their child to be involved in things outside of school and encourages them to try new things and step outside their comfort zone. They don't expect perfection, but they do have high expectations that their child will do their best.
  • Has high expectations.
  • Sets clear limits.

Affects on the Child

Self Image

Children of the authoritative parent often have very healthy self- esteem. They are less likely to  struggle with depression and anxiety. They know how to handle stress well. They are very independent and good at making decisions that benefit themselves and others.
  • Has a high self- esteem, but is not overly prideful.
  • Is confident.
  • Is independent.

Emotions

Children raised in the authoritative emotional climate feel they can trust themselves to make good decisions. They are often level headed and trust their emotions and intuition. They can see things from other perspectives and are usually confident in their beliefs.
  • Regulates their emotions well.
  • Feels they can trust themselves.
  • Is more emphatic.
  • Usually feels content.
  • Is not fearful of new things.
  • Has fewer mental health issues like depression, anxiety, suicide attempts and alcohol and substance abuse.

Social Skills

The child of an authoritative parent has excellent social skills and works well in a team or independently. They are assertive and make their opinions known, but have enough social prowess to say them in a way that makes everyone feel good. They are not violent and don't usually give into peer pressure. They feel comfortable saying, "No."
  • Is assertive.
  • Has good self- control.
  • Has good social skills.
  • Does not give into peer pressure.
  • Works well in a team.
  • Is not violent.

Academics

Children of authoritative parents show high academic success. They know how to learn and are willing to allow people to teach them things. They usually have good grades and are successful in sports and other school or community activities. They are not always the best in their school, but they always strive for excellence and do their best. This child;
  • Is teachable and learns well.
  • Has high academic achievement.
  • Is active in school activities.
Authoritative parenting has proven to be the best social and emotional climate to raise children. Child who feel secure, confident and loved are likely to succeed. Unlike the authoritarian parent, authoritative parenting is about mutual trust and communication. Children feel heard and parents still have control and final say over their child.
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The 3 Parenting Styles

11/7/2019

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Diana Baumrind was a developmental psychologist at the University of Berkley in the 1960's. After many interviews, observation sessions and much analysis, Diana Baumrind concluded there are three parenting styles.
  • Authoritative
  • Authoritarian
  • Permissive
In 1983, Maccoby and Martin expanded permissive parenting into two categories: indulgent and neglectful. For the next few weeks, we will do a deep dive into each style of parenting. Parenting style refers to the emotional climate we raise our children, not to specific parenting practices.
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The Authoritative Parent

Parenting in the authoritative parenting style is the most recommended by child psychologists and development specialists. Authoritative parents set clear boundaries with consistent consequences. Communication goes two ways, and children feel they can come to their parents if they do not understand the reasons behind the rules. Children of authoritative parents have self-confidence without being too prideful. They are independent. They regulate their emotions well and are rarely impulsive or destructive.

​The parent
  • Encourages independence by letting the child make decisions.
  • Is willing to negotiate. Doesn't expect blind obedience.
  • Listens to their child's thoughts and opinions.
  • Believes respect is earned.

The Child
  • Has a healthy self-esteem.
  • Is independent and feels they can trust themselves.
  • Regulates their emotions well.
  • Has good social skills and self-control.
  • Has high academic achievement.

The Authoritarian Parent

Authoritarian parents have high expectations, with little to no flexibility. They expect their children to always obey them without question, and do not communicate the reasoning behind their rules. Communication is very one-sided. Children of authoritarian parents have low self-esteem. They are more dependent on others and are not confident in their ability to make sound judgement calls. They do not respect authority. They often feel depressed and lonely.

The Parent
  • More likely to use corporal punishment like spanking.
  • Communication goes only one way.
  • Is very demanding.
  • Is controlling and inflexible.

The Child
  • Has low self-esteem.
  • Often struggles with depression and anxiety.
  • Feels lonely.
  • Does not respect authority.

The Permissive Parent

Permissive parents have low expectations with little to no discipline. Discipline is inconsistent at best. They are most likely to ignore potentially dangerous behavior and may intentionally avoid their children. Children of permissive parents often struggle with depression, suicide, anxiety and other mental health disorders. They may be bossy and aggressive. They often feel lonely and like they can not trust anyone.

The Parent
  • Little to no discipline.
  • Ignores dangerous or inappropriate behavior.
  • Emotionally distant.
  • Treats child like a friend.
  • Low expectations.

The Child
  • Struggles with depression, anxiety and other mental health challenges.
  • Hides their feelings.
  • Feels they can not trust anyone.
  • Bossy and manipulative.
  • Aggressive.
  • Does not respect authority.
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Mr. Lister, Nannies Are Not One- Size- Fits- All

9/9/2019

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In his blog post on 30 Seconds, "Nanny Responsibilities & Expectations: Consider This Before You Say "Not My Job," Matthew Lister suggests a one- size- fits- all approach to being a nanny. According to Lister our job is to do enough housework and other things that our nanny parents can come home and do nothing but give all their attention to their children. It may be convenient for parents to come home with dinner on the table and a clean house, but I think Mr. Lister misses the point of being a nanny. His condescending approach, and his way- too- short for comfort blog post lacks any evidence his approach works for everyone and implies that all nannies who disagree with him are somehow lazy, entitled and not doing their job.

The post lays out a series of one to two sentence arguments that are difficult to understand. There seems to be four main points in his less than 400-word piece. These points are so nuanced that one could write a book on each of them. While reactions have varied, many nannies (the very people the post seems to target) have not taken kindly to his condescending attitude. Going point- by- point, let's talk about the supposed 'lazy nanny' Mr. Lister has described.
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"Most think a nanny is there to feed and change the children, put them down for naps and keeping them safe- anything child specific."

Our job is to work with parents to raise happy, healthy, capable and thriving adults. If we are focusing too much on house work and organizing the family schedule, we can't truly do our job. Nannies do many things, but keeping the house spotless so parents don't have to clean is our last priority. We are educators, nurses, facilitators, counselors and much more, but we are not the maid. If parents want a pristine house when they get home from work, they need to hire a maid. Parents won't come home to a thrashed house, but they should not expect every chore to be done either.

Many nannies do extra housework when we have time and energy, because we genuinely care about our nanny families, but our first priority is our charge. Our job is also not to organize the household. If the nanny family wants a household organizer, they can hire one. We are nannies. Many of us are also household organizers, but we charge extra for that. Families should only expect us to do the chores and planning outlined in our contract, anything more than that is our choice. Most nannies will do a little extra housework if a parent asks nicely, though.

Seattle Area Nanny, Carissa Moran says in part, "… getting kids on a functional sleep schedule, teaching self- soothing, helping children with behavioral issues, potty training etc, are all things that are just normal parts of the job that help parents a ton." A nanny does a lot more than just keeping kids alive and feeding them, but that is an issue for another post.

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"You will want extra hours sometime, or take an extra day or even want a great reference; going above and beyond will help with that."

Believe it or not, most nannies go above and beyond what is in their contracts. We just have to be careful how much more we do, because so many nanny families become entitled and start to expect us to do way more than what was originally agreed upon. Domestic workers like nannies are taken advantage of often. When we go above and beyond, we are doing it because we want to, but some parent come to expect it and become rude and disrespectful if we suddenly don't go above and beyond one day.

Countless nannies who have gone above and beyond every day have had their nanny family turn on them and start treating them like 'the help,' instead of an equal. Some nannies have had parents refuse to pay them when they can't go above and beyond one day. Our job is to follow our contract and help parents raise thriving adults. Anything we do outside of that is 'above and beyond' and we expect to work with parents who are grateful we are working so diligently to help raise their children to be healthy and productive human beings.

 "If you can't take five minutes to help the family, then maybe you are in the wrong industry…"

Helping a family looks different for different nannies and families. Some families want a nanny to focus entirely on their child without worrying about housework or watching their pets. 'Helping' is not a one- size- fits- all concept. One thing to keep in mind is that most chores take more than five minutes. Most nannies are willing to do an extra chore here and there to help a family, but it is not our job to clean the whole house so Mom and Dad don't have to do anything but play with their kids. Again, ask nicely and most nannies are completely willing to do an extra chore that isn't in our contract once in a while, but if parents start expecting or demanding it, they can also expect to lose their nanny.

"I hope some will reconsider their views and make positive changes accordingly."

This author seems to think that any nanny who disagrees with how he thinks our job should be done is doing something wrong. What happened to an open discussion? Who is he to say that the changes he thinks we should make are positive for everyone? If he wants to engage nannies in a constructive way, implying anyone who disagrees with him is not good at their job is the wrong way to approach the subject. Who among you would want to listen to someone who is essentially saying you are bad at a job you've been doing for years just because you disagree with him? Mr. Lister should consider opening the conversation to different perspectives.
This is not to bash Mr. Lister, so please keep it constructive. Don't send this author comments that don't add to the conversation. Don't send hate. Am I angry? Yes, but more about the condescending tone than the points he made. This piece hurts my fellow nannies who have wonderful jobs and do them well. The condescending and entitled attitude of this author astounds me. If he wanted to criticize his fellow nannies, he should have done it in a less condescending way, and maybe asked some of his nanny friends for their input. I hope Mr. Lister stops writing pieces that treat anyone who disagrees as less- than.
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14 Things Nannies Wish Non-Nannies Knew

8/27/2019

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Thank you to the Seattle Area Nannies Facebook group and the r/Nanny subreddit for idea contributions!
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"When are you getting a real job?" "Oh, so you're a babysitter?" "How do you know? You don't even have kids." These are just some of the things people say when they find out we are nannies. Nannies are sometimes treated like we are just the help or worse. People sometimes act like this is just a phase we're going through that we will eventually outgrow. The truth is that many of us are career nannies who will stop when we retire, maybe. We love kids, but let's be clear; we are not babysitters. So please don't call us that. This is a job, and we don't just sit around and play games all day. Here are 14 things nannies wish non-nannies knew.

1. It is a 'real job.' ​

We don't just play with kids all day and keep them alive. We actually run the household. We do laundry, dishes, drive to extra-curricular activities, talk with teachers, manage medical appointments and everything a parent would do. Each contract is different, but some of us even care for kids for weeks (day and night, with no breaks).  

2. It's mentally and emotionally draining.

It's not always physically laborious, but it is mentally and emotionally draining. It has been said that raising kids is the hardest thing someone will ever accomplish. It's true, and being 'just a nanny' doesn't make it any easier. Imagine if your job was to take care of a tiny drunk person who couldn't talk and might scream if he doesn't get his way. It might be fun, but it also requires us to always be on our toes, because just when we think it can't get any stranger, we turn the corner to find our two-year-old has pulled out the entire roll of sticky tape and is now caught in a web of clear plastic.

3. Nannies are not babysitters. ​

There's a reason Care and Sitter City has separate section for babysitting and nannying. Nannies are very involved in child-rearing. We are expected to be the 'stand-in' parent while Mom or Dad can not be there. Babysitters are tasked with keeping the kids fed and helping them with basic tasks for a short period of time. They are often uninvolved in the child's medical care, schooling and social and emotional education.

4. Illegal workplace environments are very common. ​

Many families will not hire men, which is discrimination. We don't get breaks, which is illegal in any other profession. We are sometimes offered well below minimum wage. Benefits are not common, so many nannies don't have medical insurance or a retirement plan even if they work full-time.

5. Nannies should still be paid when their nanny family goes on vacation. 

We still have homes, utilities and other bills. We are adults with adult income needs. Families need to pay us, even if they go on vacation. We can't just go out and find a job for only one week to make up the difference.

6. Leaving our nanny family is the worst. ​

Non-nannies will never truly understand the bond between a child and his or her nanny. We spend 9 to 10 hours a day with them; longer if we are overnight or travel nannies. We treat them like our own. We love them and would jump in front of a bullet for them. When it is time to move to the next family, it is hard. We never forget our nanny-kids and would go to the moon for them if they showed up on our doorstep. ​

7. We work odd hours and often work overtime.

Some parents have predictable schedules and some have on-call schedules that vary week-by-week. Either way, we don't just arrive at nine and leave at five. We often work more than forty hours a week since we have to arrive in time for the parents to commute to work. If our nanny family works from 9 to 5, you can bet we work from 8 to 6, or 7 to 7. If we nanny for someone who owns a business or works in the medical field, we often have kids overnight.  ​

8. Nannies who don't have kids still know a lot about child-rearing.

We have worked with dozens of kids from many families, usually for 200+ hours per month. We have seen almost everything, and going home each day gives a chance to reflect on the things we can do better and the things we did that worked. We usually know a lot of other nannies, all of whom have cared for dozens of kids from dozens of families, and we do swap ideas and learn from each other. ​

9. Nannies need to support their families, too.

Nannies charge anywhere from $10 an hour to $40 an hour depending on the number of hours, children workload and the area they live. It may seem expensive, but we are adults with adult bills and income needs. We are being paid to be a surrogate parent, of sorts, while Mom and Dad are away. If people want to pay less, they can hire a teenage babysitter or take their child to a daycare.

10. Not everyone is cut out for it. 

Being a nanny requires patience, lots of creativity and someone who is okay with being the only adult all day. Kids push buttons and yelling only makes it worse. Nannies need to have a wealth of ideas for disciplining and distracting kids who are misbehaving. They need to be able to invent great boredom busters on a moments notice. Staying calm and being creative is the only way to win at this game. ​

11. It's isolating and lonely. ​

Our job is lonely and often misunderstood. It is not uncommon for us to get condescending remarks like, "When are you going to get a 'real job?'" and "Oh, so you just play with kids all day." We rarely have time or energy to socialize with adults and sometimes feel isolated.

12. We don't get breaks, or lunch or even peace in the bathroom.

Lunch break? What is that? Many of us hear people say, "Oh, just do it on your lunch break." We are with the kids alone all day long. We're lucky to go to the bathroom alone. We don't get breaks. Sometimes we don't even have time to eat lunch.

13. Condescending remarks are common.

We hear everything from "So, when will you get a real job?" to "Oh cute, you're a nanny! How fun!" It's fun and hard, but cute is not how we would describe it. ​

14. Some of us nanny as a career. ​

Yes, it's not just a job for college students. In fact, some of us get college degrees in early education or child development with the intention of becoming a full- time nanny. Many of us do it until retirement. Nanny 911 aren't the only career nannies!
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5 Summertime Outlines For Zendoodlers- Embrace Our Imperfection

8/27/2019

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25 Hilarious Paradoxes That Will Make You Question Everything- BuzzFeed

8/15/2019

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Three cheers for these 25 mind-benders. Get ready to throw out everything you think you know. Or just, ya know, overthink them all until your brain hurts and you need a shot!
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The Train Plane and Other Stories From North Carolina

11/16/2018

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About three years ago, I interviewed with author Marilyn Shannon about growing up without my twin. He died before we were born and I always felt like something was missing. When the book officially launched last month, I fundraised to get to the launch event in Raleigh, NC. While writing this post, I realized that I have not mentioned anything about the fundraising, event, panel about twins or anything in between. I apologize for that. I guess in my fundraising, I forgot a few things. It was a lot of work, and a lot to keep track of. This is the first of the (three, I think) blog posts I am going to write on my trip.

The first of three vlogs were posted Wednesday. In this post, I am going to talk a bit about some of the silly little stories I did not include in the vlog.

The Train Plane and the Man From Nigeria

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On the way to Raleigh, I had a layover in Atlanta, GA. Not only was this, basically, my first airplane ride, but I also grew up in a small town with small buildings. So, when the person taking me to my next flight brought me to what looked to be a subway/ train station, I was totally confused. When I asked him why we were leaving the airport, he said “We’re not. We are going to your next plane.”
“Um… then why are we getting on a train?” I asked.
It was at this point that I heard a computer voice that said “THE TRAIN PLANE IS LEAVING IN 2 MINUTES.” Needless to say, I was very confused.
I turned to the man and said “WAIT! So this train is going to take me from one place in the airport…”
“Yes.”
“... to another place in the same airport?!”
The man said “Yes. It’s a BIG airport.” His eyes got really big. He had a heavy accent. I think he said he is from Nigeria. His accent and my total shock made for a pretty funny moment. That is when I realized: you’re not in “Kansas” anymore, Merissa.

The Shake Shack Changed My Life?

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At the Atlanta airport, near my gate, there was a Shake Shack. We don’t have those where I am from, by the way. While the Nigerian man and I were going past, a woman who worked at the Shake Shack was yelling “Come get some burgers. They gonna change your life! It will never be the same. They amazin’!”
I thought it was funny how she was telling passersby how amazing their burgers are and how they will change lives. Since it was dinnertime, and I didn’t want to risk getting lost by searching for a cheaper dinner spot (plus the woman was too funny), I decided to get a burger from her. I walked up to the counter and asked the woman “are you sure this burger will change my life?”
She said “Yeah! Of course.”
I ordered my burger and then said “ I probably won’t see you again, but if I do, I will definitely tell you how this burger changed my life.”
She said “Naw! I’ll see you, again. I can tell.” She pointed at me and then at herself. “We got a connection.”
I said “ Oh we do? I think you’re right. I’ll see you and tell you all about how your amazing burgers chaged my life!”
She said “ Yeah, and it will. I know it!”
I ate my burger. A couple of hours later, right before my plane started boarding, I went back up to the Shake Shack. The barrier gate was down, because they were closing. Everyone was cleaning up. I walked up and started just talking to the woman from before. I said “GUESS WHAT! That burger… it DID change my life. Yeah, I’m a millionaire, now.”
Everyone behind the gate, except the woman was looking at me quizzically. From their perspective, I am this rando person just walking up to them while they were closed and telling them how a burger made me a millionaire. The woman responded “Yeah, see, I told ya! ‘This burger gon’ change yo’ life!” When their coworker responded to me in a casual way, they looked even more puzzled.
As I was walking away, I heard the woman explain to her coworkers what had transpired a couple of hours before. But, for about two minutes, those people must have been super confused. There are a lot of crazy people in the world, and they must’ve thought I was one of them. Granted, I am, but not the sort they probably thought.

Chocolate Confusion

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At the same airport, I walked into a convenient store to get some water. After grabbing my water, I noticed a bag of Reese's Peanut Butter cups was priced at only $3.99. I was surprised at that low price. I was, after all, in an airport. But, it clearly said $3.99. I grabbed the bag and my water, and went to the counter to pay.

The man who rang me up had just been goofing off with his coworkers right before I came to the counter. He rang up my two items and said “That’ll be $16.99.” For a second I thought I misheard him. In my mind, it should have been less than $7.

I said “Wait… what?! You’re joking, right?” Remember, he had been goofing around for the entire time I was in the store.

“No, I’m serious. It’s $16.99.” He said, blankly.

“Wha- how?” I asked.

He said “ Yeah, the candy is $12.99, bro.”

I jokingly said “What ya doin’ chargin’ that much, bro?!”
He said “Well, we got bills.” Only he said it like “ Wah, we got beeyahlls.” Shocked I put the candy back. I like candy, but not enough to pay THAT much. I was sad, though. The sad thing is that I had gotten my taste buds ready for some of my favorite candy. I never did get to eat those Reese's Peanut Butter Cups. 😢 ​

That is the last of my stories for this week. I will be posting more stories next Friday. The second vlog from the trip goes up next Wednesday. It will be about the actual event. I was on a panel with other twins and told my story live. Also, the tropical storm from Hurricane Michael also hit. I got some footage of that. ​
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DIY Cardboard Toy Blocks

1/9/2018

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These homemade cardboard blocks are a great craft for the whole family if you are willing to do a little preparation. They are sturdy, safe for little ones and fun to play with. I have whole box of them in my toy section. Some of which, were painted by the kids themselves. ​
How to make your own cardboard blocks.

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Materials

Make your own blocks out of cardboard.
  • Acrylic or Tempera PaintCardboard
  • Cardstock
  • Scissors
  • Box Cutter
  • Acrylic Finishing Spray
  • Paintbrushes
  • Rubber Cement or Elmer’s Glue

Instructions

  1. Draw the shape and size of the block you want to make on a piece of cardstock and cut it out. This will be the stencil you use for each block piece.
  2. Trace the stencil 6 to 8 times on pieces of thick cardboard. I get mine for free from local stores who recycle the old boxes, anyway.
  3. Use a box cutter to cut out the block shapes.
  4. Glue the 6 to 8 pieces together to make the block thicker. The more pieces you use, the thicker the block will be.
  5. Do steps two through four for every block you want to make.
  6. When the blocks have dried, paint them to your liking.
  7. Let the paint dry overnight and then use an acrylic finishing to keep the paint from chipping. ​

Another Way To Have Fun With These Homemade Cardboard Blocks

These blocks are also fun for your kids to paint after you have put them together. You can even cut out the pieces and have your kids stack and glue them together if they are old enough. If they make their own toys, they are more likely to be gentle with them. They will take better care of them. ​
Did you try making these blocks? I'd love to see your results! Please, send me pictures or tips and variations and I might feature them on my blog. Have fun!

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    Meet Merissa

    I was a nanny for over ten years. Now, I make homemade toys and write full time. Occasionally, I work at my local schools and provide back- up child care for some parents I used to work for and for my church's nursery. I am multi-talented and loves to paint, draw, crochet, write and sew. 

    My love of learning started before I can remember. One thing my mom always said is to learn a new skill every year for the rest of my life and you will never get bored. Since I am so competitive, I tried to one-up her by learning a new skill every month. That did not last long, but it did ingrain in me a love for learning new things that I just can't shake. 

    In the summer months, I teach an art class called "Beginning Zendrawing in the Park." I am on the Autism Spectrum, and one of the best pieces of advice I ever got was to remember that everyone has challenges in life, I just have a different set of them. I want to teach everyone to embrace all those little imperfections, and strive to be better every day. I currently run a blog with free printable for those who like to doodle. 

    I am planning a one to three year trip around the country where I will teach art classes in each state. The goal is to leave for the 3 month practice trip in three years (Summer, 2022). Things may change, but 2023 is the goal.  If you want to keep up on my art classes, check out my art blog here. ​

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