Limits. You have to have them! Whether they are limits and boundaries for your kids, friends and relatives or yourself. If you ‘over-do-it’ you’ll be sorry later, right? “But, Merissa,” you say “I’m a mom/ dad, I need to do what I need to do no matter how it makes me feel.” That is true. But how much of the things you say you ‘need’ to do are really that important?
You know how they say to ‘pick your battles?’ Well, I feel like that can also be said about your to-do list. I have had an irregular heartbeat since I was about 10 years old. It gets worse with stress or too much activity. I also have PDD, which is High-Functioning Autism. That means that if there is too much going on, I sometimes get overwhelmed. This in NO WAY keeps me from being able to handle kids. It just means that I have to know my limits and stick to them.
Every night before I go to bed, I write down up to three goals for the next day. They can be anything from ‘take out the trash’ or ‘clean the kitchen’ to ‘give the kids a bath’ or ‘cook a certain dinner.’ If I complete all the tasks, my day went WONDERFULLY. Only two? I can be okay with myself and be satisfied. One? Okay, I need to try and stretch myself a little more next time. Not to my breaking point, but just enough that I can begin to handle more and more each day.
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So I decided to try something new. And it was so obvious, I didn't think of it sooner because, being a creative, I like to think more outside- the- box than anything. I put a sign on the front door when the kids were napping in BIG red letters that simply said "Children Napping. Please be SILENT!" That seems to have done the trick... until the kids get inside, and they forget the whole "Shush!" concept. Haha. All- in- all, I can't believe I didn't think of it sooner. Now, the trick is to help them remember to be silent when they get inside the house, also. But that's for another pos
"Sleeping children, please be SILENT!"
I was a nanny for over ten years. Now, I make homemade toys and write full time. Occasionally, I work at my local schools and provide back- up child care for some parents I used to work for and for my church's nursery. I am multi-talented and loves to paint, draw, crochet, write and sew.
My love of learning started before I can remember. One thing my mom always said is to learn a new skill every year for the rest of my life and you will never get bored. Since I am so competitive, I tried to one-up her by learning a new skill every month. That did not last long, but it did ingrain in me a love for learning new things that I just can't shake.
In the summer months, I teach an art class called "Beginning Zendrawing in the Park." I am on the Autism Spectrum, and one of the best pieces of advice I ever got was to remember that everyone has challenges in life, I just have a different set of them. I want to teach everyone to embrace all those little imperfections, and strive to be better every day. I currently run a blog with free printable for those who like to doodle.
I am planning a one to three year trip around the country where I will teach art classes in each state. The goal is to leave for the 3 month practice trip in three years (Summer, 2022). Things may change, but 2023 is the goal. If you want to keep up on my art classes, check out my art blog here.