Limits. You have to have them! Whether they are limits and boundaries for your kids, friends and relatives or yourself. If you ‘over-do-it’ you’ll be sorry later, right? “But, Merissa,” you say “I’m a mom/ dad, I need to do what I need to do no matter how it makes me feel.” That is true. But how much of the things you say you ‘need’ to do are really that important?
You know how they say to ‘pick your battles?’ Well, I feel like that can also be said about your to-do list. I have had an irregular heartbeat since I was about 10 years old. It gets worse with stress or too much activity. I also have PDD, which is High-Functioning Autism. That means that if there is too much going on, I sometimes get overwhelmed. This in NO WAY keeps me from being able to handle kids. It just means that I have to know my limits and stick to them.
Every night before I go to bed, I write down up to three goals for the next day. They can be anything from ‘take out the trash’ or ‘clean the kitchen’ to ‘give the kids a bath’ or ‘cook a certain dinner.’ If I complete all the tasks, my day went WONDERFULLY. Only two? I can be okay with myself and be satisfied. One? Okay, I need to try and stretch myself a little more next time. Not to my breaking point, but just enough that I can begin to handle more and more each day.
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I was a nanny for over ten years. Now, I make homemade toys and write full time. Occasionally, I work at my local schools and provide back- up child care for some parents I used to work for and for my church's nursery. I am multi-talented and loves to paint, draw, crochet, write and sew.