Authoritarian parents have high expectations, but provide very little nurturance or positive feedback. They are less likely to listen to the child's wants and often expect obedience without question. They are more likely to use corporal punishment like spanking. Communication between parent and child is usually only one way. Children of authoritarian parents tend to have a low self-esteem and be unsure of themselves. They sometimes have trouble making decisions. They are less likely to ask their parents for help when they need it for fear of getting in trouble.
Authoritarian parents are more likely to focus on things the child is doing wrong and discipline using spanking and other forms or corporal punishment. They may yell and attempt to get their children to do what they want by evoking fear.
- Yells more.
- Spanks or uses other forms of physical punishment.
- Makes their kids obey by evoking fear.
- Believes children must obey without question.
For the authoritarian parent, communication is one way. The parent expects the child to obey without explanation. As a result, children may have trouble making decisions on their own as adults.
Authoritarian parents focus on exerting their will onto the child. They are unlikely to listen to the child with a differing opinion. Negotiation is not an option. Children receive a lot more negative feedback than positive.
Expectations are very high for the authoritarian parent. Sometimes they expect too much of their child which can affect their self-esteem. The child's developmental abilities are not often taken into account.
Affects on the Child
Children who receive more negative feedback than positive usually have a low self-esteem. They may feel they are bad or dumb and may not be able to recognize great achievements.
Children of authoritarian parents are often disconnected from their own thoughts and emotions. They may have trouble expressing their feelings or even knowing how they feel. They are more likely to struggle with anxiety and depression.
- Do not feel they can trust their feelings.
- Has suppressed emotions.
- Often feels depressed.
- Is angry and resentful.
The authoritarian parent focuses on achievement and obedience instead of self-control and managing their own behaviors. Children of authoritarian parents may have trouble getting along with others and often feels alone. They may have trouble making and keeping friends, and may get into friendships and relationships that are unhealthy.
Since authoritarian parents push expectations that may be too harsh onto their child, they are less likely to respect authority. They may have trouble concentrating in school and at work.
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