The authoritative parent has high expectations and consistently disciplines and enforces their expectations. They believe communication is a two-way street and is willing to listen to and reason with their children. They do not demand respect, but rather believe respect is earned. Child development experts agree that children raised with an authoritative parent are more socially aware, emotionally stable and successful in their lives. Authoritative parents say "Do as I say, and here is the reason." They are more willing to listen to their child's opinions, but do not allow their children to do whatever they want. They focus on teaching their children independence and how to strive for excellence, and are attuned to their child's thoughts, feelings and opinions.
The authoritative parent thinks of discipline as teaching. They prefer to explain to their child the reasons they should or should not do something. Unlike their authoritarian counterpart, the authoritative parent does not say, "Do as I say or else."
This type of parent believes their children have a right to their opinion if they are polite and respectful. They try to make their child feel heard and understood by listening for understanding. They leave room for negotiations, but are the final say.
The parent strives to make the child feel loved and tries to be aware of their needs and desires. They try to stay open with their child.
The authoritative parent sets the bars for school, sports and activities high. They expect their child to do their best in everything they do. They don't expect perfect grades, but they do expect them to be proactive in learning the material. They expect their child to be involved in things outside of school and encourages them to try new things and step outside their comfort zone. They don't expect perfection, but they do have high expectations that their child will do their best.
Affects on the Child
Children of the authoritative parent often have very healthy self- esteem. They are less likely to struggle with depression and anxiety. They know how to handle stress well. They are very independent and good at making decisions that benefit themselves and others.
Children raised in the authoritative emotional climate feel they can trust themselves to make good decisions. They are often level headed and trust their emotions and intuition. They can see things from other perspectives and are usually confident in their beliefs.
The child of an authoritative parent has excellent social skills and works well in a team or independently. They are assertive and make their opinions known, but have enough social prowess to say them in a way that makes everyone feel good. They are not violent and don't usually give into peer pressure. They feel comfortable saying, "No."
Children of authoritative parents show high academic success. They know how to learn and are willing to allow people to teach them things. They usually have good grades and are successful in sports and other school or community activities. They are not always the best in their school, but they always strive for excellence and do their best. This child;
Authoritative parenting has proven to be the best social and emotional climate to raise children. Child who feel secure, confident and loved are likely to succeed. Unlike the authoritarian parent, authoritative parenting is about mutual trust and communication. Children feel heard and parents still have control and final say over their child.
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